tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34418044.post5957175584745567214..comments2023-08-04T03:59:39.958-06:00Comments on Deutschland: Boundaries and What NotTishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02795061370423701020noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34418044.post-68249075189007968582015-03-26T11:00:06.176-06:002015-03-26T11:00:06.176-06:00Once, after yet another session of my daughter'...Once, after yet another session of my daughter's rudeness and efforts of distancing me, I talked to her about how I was going to stick with her, no matter what. God gave me the thought to play Steve Green's <br />"Love Will Find a Way". I was doing dishes, she was sitting on the floor in the kitchen where I'd told her to sit and listen to the song. It brought her to quietly falling tears. Especially the line that says "Love will find a way to follow where you run..." It was a God thing, and a moment that spoke truth into her heart through a song.<br />Nancy in the MidwestAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34418044.post-45226058348532335302015-03-26T10:38:40.413-06:002015-03-26T10:38:40.413-06:00Me again. From the Midwest. Reading and relating ...Me again. From the Midwest. Reading and relating and so sorry that one more mom is dealing with the pain of their child in these very painful ways. It is exhausting. Just thinking about the causes, consequences, collateral damage, the what to do and how to do it, analyzing if it's just us, our own personalities bringing out their worst, feelings of being their only target and no one else seeing how hard it is to be purposely pushed out. Though my daughter is many years older and home seven years, I'm sorry to say, I have no answers, other than taking it all to Jesus. I haven't always done that, but instead reacted from my own place of "wisdom." He probably won't make it all go away or suddenly heal all their pain or ours. But He's the Great Physician and Healer. These issues aren't probably the "touch the hem of His robe" type of stories with sudden, miraculous healing. But daily we can find strength and hope and truth that He is with us always and can turn what the enemy meant for evil to our good. Michael W. Smith's "Sovereign Over Us" speaks powerfully about this. <br />I do know I haven't always dealt with it correctly. I'm impatient and want respect. Should I have walked away more? Probably. Given more grace? Probably. Tho...I actually think I've served up a ton of it, considering the intensity of her stubborn and rude behavior. Maybe not. There's always room for more grace. Things are MUCH better than they used to be. She is maturing and able to consider more mature concepts as we talk. I plan to sit with her and read some of your recent posts. When the time is right. I know your words have encouraged my hubby to consider what he has mostly not been able to see or accept as her part of the conflict. As painful as I know it is for you, I do thank you for sharing your heart and thoughts concerning your struggle. I pray you can find the boundaries you need and the wisdom to know how to implement them...ways that will keep you strong and present with your healthy kids and husband. Keep believing that God is also teaching them much about compassion, healthy ways to deal with pain and conflict, and more we just can't see from this side. Your beautiful Meadow needs you so much more than she can say. She has a wonderful mom, one fully committed to finishing what God brought her to do. She just needs reminders from the Lord that she herself is able to rise above the pain and carry on. You are being that example to your daughter, as you find those boundaries and show her healthy ways to deal with emotions and with the people we love.<br />NancyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com