Watching Oprah while folding laundry this afternoon, I saw overweight teens talking about life's issues that prompt them to eat. It is heart breaking and I heard over and over again, from child after child, about the pain of being ridiculed at school. Tears streaming down her face, one girl even mentioned teachers making fun of her. Most of the teens admitted to contemplating suicide.

I am not one that is against public school, private school or charter schools in general. I do believe every family has to do what is best for them in their own unique situation.

After selecting an alternate form of education for our kids, the number one question that was asked repeatedly was, "what about socialization?"

It is when I see something like this, and am reminded of the tormenting nature of far too many peer relationships in a school setting, that I have to ask, what about this particular brand of socialization is so spectacular? Isn't it a bit strange that people would concern themselves with whether or not our kids could possibly thrive without it?
Why would we esteem this as THE way to "socialize" our children?

For some kids, the price for this socialization is much greater than they should ever have to pay.

I wonder the ratio of relationships at school that truly build up the student, regardless of how they look, the way they dress, what their capabilities are, versus interactions that tear down the individual due to not measuring up to a completely superficial standard young people are prone to set?
The cruelty of some kids is shocking and disturbing.

Why is this type of setting the only way some adults believe children can develop social skills to conduct themselves in the presence of fellow human beings effectively, graciously, honestly, and compassionately?

Even with the implementation of character development programs, I still do not see schools as an ideal place to honor each person, especially if an individual is viewed as different. There is only so much teachers and counselors can control, and they are there primarily to educate.
As much as grown-ups applaud celebrating diversity, when placed in large group environments, kids do not naturally gravitate toward this. Not at all.

Obviously, young people are in school to receive an education, but certainly we can remember from our younger years, the predominant focus for most kids is not academic. It is social. And often it is deeply destructive for anyone who finds themselves outside the fold.

I do realize the importance of being part of the real world and learning to stand up for one's self. There are certainly a variety of ways to teach these skills and become involved with others.
At this time in our lives, as a parent, I relish playing an extremely active role in that process and being selective socially.

I have no idea what the future holds for our family or how long we will home school.
Our kids may very well find themselves in a public school atmosphere. We really are not anti-school under all circumstances. I guarantee you though, if they do attend school outside the home, our motivation for sending them will not be the excellent socialization provided.

I just can not understand why we would consider this essential for healthy emotional and social development.
Just my take on it.....no question some will disagree ;-)