This one is for the girls.

Jayla and Clover,
If you decide to marry, and you've chosen your husband wisely, so you have a good man that treats you well, there is something I want you to know.

It's imperative for your life and your marriage that you edify and highly esteem that man, with your thoughts toward him, your actions, and your words. That relationship should be the deepest you will ever know. When you live your life, and raise your children, that is your partner. When you are sick and when you are well, that is your partner. Breakfast, lunch and dinner, that is your partner. Roadtrips, financial decisions, career choices, crisis situations, that is your partner. Your friendships may come and go. Your children will grow up and move into their own lives. Your parents will probably not out-live you. He will be your constant. Your family. Hopefully, your truest friend.

Over time, you may find out he is not the man you thought he was. Do not buy into the prince charming fairy tale. It is a lie that will leave you disillusioned. In some ways he will disappoint you. In others, he will astound you. But, he is yours and you are his. He is a human being, like you and each and every single one of us is flawed. Remember your own shortcomings before you're too quick to point out his. You will hold a very fragile part of him in your hands and you can either tenderly care for that portion you have been entrusted with, or you can wreck it.

It is all too easy for us to be quick and biting with our words. Words that belittle, disrespect and henpeck. You need not utter every thought that passes through your mind. He will not necessarily see things the way you do, and women sometimes make the mistake of thinking that means he is simple minded. The jokes that float around will confirm that thought, but it is not accurate. God made him to be different from you, and that is a gift. Men are capable and strong and logical and you will have the ability to draw out the best in him like no one else can. Focus on his best qualities. Accept him for who he is, and have vision for who he can become, but do not try to change him. Compliment him often on what he does well, with sincerity.

Make your relationship a haven for both you and him and you will experience the joy of loving him well and you will inspire him to love you in return.