I stumbled upon a blog entry today that ministered to me at this very moment when I need it. I don't even read this blog regularly, though I should.
No, none of those statements were written by me. I am not linking to it because I am"there." I'm I'm not there. If I were, I would say so.
At the same time, I get it and I am learning that newly adoptive parents should be handled with gentleness and tenderness and mercy because it's much harder than it looks.
I am forming a far deeper level of compassion for those who are struggling.
I am in awe with admiration for those who do it well.
They are my personal heroes and I hope one day to be in a position to encourage others in their endeavor.
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Adoption is rough for many reasons. I feel our adoption of Brandon went very smoothly, but that by no means means it was easy. It was a huge adjustment for us all. I remember mostly the comments of people who had never adopted but were bio-parents. Numerous times I heard "Well atleast you got a 4 year old and won't have to worry about losing sleep like you would with an infant." I didn't get a full nights sleep for over 9 months. Night terrors, bad dreams, sleep walking, getting used to a new bed, all of these things were an obstacle. Finding out that bare feet disturbed our little boy, not just on him but he couldn't stand for me to be barefoot. Brandon was wonderful with food, he would try anything and usually eat it. He would say "well, I don't love it." and then eat anyway. (Wish he would still do that)
There are so many unseen issues that pop up that you wouldn't think of, like certain movies being scary that really shouldn't be to a 4 or 5 year old. Or the fact that a beer bottle in someone's hand would make a child nervous.
Hang in there Tisha! You are on the right track. Prayer and love and patience will see you through. No situation is the same Meadow will have different problems than Flint but they will find that they now have brothers, sisters, a Mom and a Dad that are there to help them through! I am still lifting prayers for you!
Amy
Thank you Amy. You always have great words of encouragement that mean a lot to me because you've been there. You're right - there are many things you could not possibly prepare for - quirks and unique sensitivities to things that would have never occured to you - it's such a learning curve. Thanks for getting that, and for expressing it with such detail.
God is faithful. Friends like you are part of His goodness in my life. Thank you again.
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